I'm not trying to generalize, but most of my female friends talk about past boyfriends, dissecting why their relationships didn't work.
From "he just doesn't get me" to "we're too different" to "why did we stay together THAT long," women tend to overanalyze past relationships.
Your friend broke up yesterday and today you were seen romancing with his friend. Your already-devastated friend would get even more miserable.
If you are interested in your friend's ex, go slow and steady.
What's the point of dating a girl who is still not over with her past?
And it couldn't get worse if the past happens to be your good friend.
They wonder if there's some kind of code they should go by or should they just follow their heart.
Imagine the situation in which you have been telling your friend how lucky he was to have a particular girl in his life. If the chemistry is explosive and undeniable, it may be worth the risk. If you were the one who took out the garbage, you might want to go about this is a very. manner so as not to induce window breaking from your ex. (Because you're fabulous and amazing, it probably is though.) Also important to assess: who broke up with who? Said ex probably likes people who share similar qualities (mountain biking! ) and you guys have probably all pal-ed around together for months, maybe even years; it makes that you might be attracted to ex's friend. For all you know, your ex just wasn't that into it and might be stoked to see you move on to someone who's better suited for you. Accusations and tears may flow as freely as the alcohol that you're likely consuming. Don't self loathe, wallow or spiral into misery, that's not gonna make anyone's pain go away and it sure as hell isn't going to pave a smooth foundation for your new love-fest. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her. Unless you're a terrible person, you probably don't want to trample your ex's heart in the process of nurturing your new flame. And, guess what, your new squeeze—who just might be a nice person! As noted journalist Mary Schmich once said, "don't be reckless with other people's hearts." There's no need to punch an innocent bystander in their tender bits because you've gotten burned or are pining for someone else. If you were the one who got dumped however, we think you have a little more leverage in pursuing your ex's pal; after all s/he didn't want you anymore, right? I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom.the amount of love, commitment and investment you had in your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.