However, at the same time you know you are treating yourself as if you do not deserve someone who could be there for you 100%.
If you are a single woman that has been seeing a married man for some time and reading this, chances are that you have already gone through the initial stages of infatuation and blinding bliss.
In these initial stages you are not wanting to think too deeply about the realities you are creating in your life by pursuing this relationship.
Intimate, but isolated You have a wonderful newfound closeness with this man that you may not have had for a very long time.
However, as time goes by he becomes one of the few people you can be intimate with because you cannot share what is most important for you in your life with most others.
Participating in an affair necessitates entering an altered state of consciousness where only part of reality can be processed, the part that has to do with pleasure.
It’s like being in a trance, complete with it’s own logic.Getting these answers become more and more important as you become more involved and then obsessed with your lover and realize that you are not as central to him as he is to you.(I am using the term “the other woman” as a literary convenience because statistics show that married men have affairs more frequently than do married women.You tell yourself their marriage is already over anyway, or that it’s not your responsibility, but his, since he is the one cheating and you are not cheating on anyone.However, deep down you know you have made a choice to participate in something that can result in devastation for any number of people.But as things progress and the honeymoon period wears off you start to have questions, you bring them up to you lover, but most likely come away with answers that leave you only partially or not at all satisfied.