When you do, you’re creating your own safety zone — essential for not only feeling relaxed emotionally, but for releasing your body from guard duty, as well.
Isolated, dark, quiet places may be great for romance, but on a first date, the goal is to get comfortable with each other. And safety comes in well-trafficked public places where you can let your guard down.
Unless you went to kindergarten with your date and every grade since, it makes sense to let someone know where you are, especially these days, when people meet through the personals and blind dates and online chat rooms.
Even if you’re both safe from each other, what if the car breaks down or there’s a storm at the beach or your roller blades are hijacked?
You might even learn a little more about your deal breakers and pinpoint what you desire in a partner and a relationship. Your local coffee shop might sound like a snore, but it’s safe and close to home. You see them, and you immediately want to run out the door. Then, be honest: you don't feel the chemistry you hoped for.
Coffee shops are always busy and well lit, which is important for safety purposes. Your first online date should run about one to two hours and take place no later than mid-afternoon. Once you give him the 411, get out of there and move on to the next person.
While it may feel like a pinch on your freedom, it’s a gift you and your single girlfriends can give to each other.
During your rundown of phone numbers, pager numbers, and e-mail addresses, ask one simple question: Whereabouts do you live?
If you make a connection with someone online, it's tempting to want to meet right away, but give it enough time to be sure that person is genuine.
If you suspect that something is not quite right, keep asking questions and insisting on answers (and proof of those answers).
If you want to meet somewhere sexier, try a wine bar. You should also avoid dinner as it will take up your entire evening.